It’s been a while!
I have had to step back from the blog for a bit and give myself some mental space. Sometimes we all need some time for ourselves for clarity and self care.
Blogging has been quite the endeavor, challenging me in ways that I have not been challenged before. I love the aspects of getting to write about things I love and putting information and ideas out into the world to share.
But sometimes, this blog is definitely way more work than I had anticipated. So sometimes, I lag a little bit behind. I am still trying to find a healthy balance in my life and work on myself and my goals. So hopefully this blog will help me to flush out my journey of self discovery.
I want to thank you all for being patient with me while I learn, and supporting me when I slip up. I am very grateful for this opportunity to document my growth and have you all by side.
So, all that being said, it is so important to find balance in all things in your life. Between responsibilities and fun, healthy food and treats, balance is a key that often gets lost. As I meander through these next few months before I start yet another Uni degree, I want to bring more balance into my life.
Here is how.
Healthy Body, Healthy Mind
It is no secret that taking care of your body has resounding impacts on your overall well being. In the words of one of my favorite movies:
“Exercise gives you endorphins; endorphins make you happy, happy people just don’t shoot their husbands!”Elle Woods
Not only does exercise release all these good things in your body, but regular exercise is associated with lower levels of stress, higher confidence and improved productivity.
I am somewhat undergoing a health transformation of my own. After hiding in a library for three months crying and stressing over a dissertation, I put on some weight. Then, transitioning to moving back home and having to work an 8-5 job, I found myself in a bit of a slump.
I started getting back into a more regular fitness routine, and integrating healthy foods back into my diet. I can’t tell you how big of a difference this change has made to my life. I kept putting it off, and ended up paying for a gym membership I never used.
After I made myself think about the money I was quite literally burning, I made my tired self go to the gym for a zumba session. I think the trick (for me anyway) is to against all inclination, make myself get up and go to the gym. Once I am there, it is no problem. So instead of trying to convince myself to work out, I convince myself to make the journey.
This (so far) has worked for me, and I have been going to the gym consistently for about three weeks now (whooohoo!) My focus has improved, my sleep has been better, and I feel less stressed. I also can now do (one) push up! I have never been able to do that before 🙂
I have learned that I am the type of person that has very conflicting social needs. Sometimes, I really want to be around people and socialize, and other times, I just want to hang around in my cozy socks at home with zero social interaction.
I know I post a lot about self-care, but I think the biggest thing I personally need to do is take time out for myself. I take about 30 minutes to an hour a day to do something for me. I have been putting my phone on down and on do not disturb, and finding one thing to do where I allow myself to relax.
If you need some ideas on things to do to take time for yourself, take a look at my Self Care Sunday Post which has a list of 20 ideas you can use to implement you time into your day.
This is really helpful for me in finding balance lately. 30 minutes or even an hour is not that long, so I don’t feel guilty for taking that time for myself. In fact sometimes this wee break in my day is enough to refocus and be more productive. The activity I do depends on what my needs are, sometimes I get a big glass of wine and watch an episode of TV. Sometimes I take a bath with essential oils. The activity doesn’t matter as much to me as just simply taking the time to let myself let go.
This has also allowed me to be more present in my social life. When I have given myself some energy and attention, I find it much easier to give that to others.
Time management is a lofty point for this post, I know. But, for me it is an essential aspect of balance. This is tricky because time management can mean different things to different people and can encompass different strategies.
For me, time management boils down to accepting that I cannot possibly fit everything I want to or maybe even need to accomplish in one day. To me, time management is about compromise and managing my time effectively simultaneously.
You’ve probably heard this tip before, but my strategy is to put three to do’s on my list for the day that are my main focus. I have other things on there too, but they are things on the back burner, that if I don’t get to today, then that’s okay. But my main goal is to accomplish those three tasks for the day.
I also have been scheduling my work outs physically in my planner. It helps me feel like I am making time for my health and it helps me put my overall day into perspective. I am more inclined to do things if they are in my plan for the day.
Balance sometimes feels like you’re neglecting things…
I feel like when people envision a balanced life, they see someone who can do it all. As if fitting all your work/school items, self-care, health and a social life should be easy and fully actualized.
I don’t think this is the case. I think when we try to fit everything in to its fullest extent, is when we start to feel overwhelmed, and when we start to drop the ball on important things.
Balance is a compromise first and foremost. It is finding a push and a pull in your life where maybe one day, you have to give up somethings you hoped to do, and other days, you get done all you need and more. The more I have learned to accept this push and pull idea, the more I have found I can achieve a more balanced life. The thing is, I don’t end up feeling bad or neglectful of my responsibilities, health or social life, because I know things will get done. I am happier for allowing myself to take on only that I can realistically handle.